Emily Nagoski’s frank, thoughtful Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections shows couples how to develop and nurture a sense of intimacy for the long term. A firm believer that sexual chemistry doesn’t have to wane as the years go by, Nagoski shares easy ways to initiate talks about sex and tips for deciphering a partner’s emotions and moods. She also presents pointers for shutting out self-doubt, anxiety and tension. Backed by research and filled with Nagoski’s expert insights, Come Together is an essential title for committed couples.
All too often, a romantic partnership can breed codependency and doubt. Readers faced with this dispiriting scenario will welcome Jessica Baum’s Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love. In this wise, compassionate book, Baum provides the tools for building strong, fulfilling connections, minus the anxiety. Drawing on her background as a couples therapist, she uses what she calls the Self-Full Method to help individuals form a healthy sense of identity and create interdependence within a relationship. Relatable talking points like self-esteem, communication and trust make this a terrific book club pick.
Logan Ury’s How Not to Die Alone: The Surprising Science That Will Help You Find Love is required reading for anyone who’s met too many dead ends on the road to romance. Ury spotlights the key decisions that can make or break a relationship and offers invaluable advice on how to identify the traits that are important in a partner. A behavioral scientist and experienced dating coach, she weaves in solid research, engaging anecdotes and constructive exercises. This congenial guide will inspire singletons to pursue lasting connection with a renewed sense of purpose.
In The Love Prescription: Seven Days to More Intimacy, Connection, and Joy, John Gottman and Julie Schwartz Gottman present an easy-to-follow plan for couples who are looking to deepen and enrich their partnerships. Noted relationship experts, Gottman and Gottman draw upon their extensive research on the subjects of love and marriage in this companionable volume. With an emphasis on communication and openness, their blueprint for renewed intimacy includes concrete steps (designate a date night; demonstrate affection) designed to bring couples closer together in a week’s time. Themes of honesty and vulnerability will kick-start meaningful book club conversations.
